A couple months ago I had a client that came in frustrated with her life. She started in by telling me how she was frustrated in her marriage, that her kids didn’t listen, and she wanted out of her job. She had been trying to get her business off the ground and felt completely and utterly stuck. She was ready to quit her job but could not give up her income. She was full of fear and frustration. Before we could work on the issues of fear and breaking through her business, we worked to shift her mindset. She had been focused for too long on all the things that were bad or wrong in her life instead of focusing on what was going right or feeling good.
So what was the first thing we worked on? Gratitude, of course!
I asked her to take an inventory of the “good” things in her life. As it turns out she was thankful for her husband, and her kids, and her job. Her husband and her kids wanted her attention. Her job was giving her a salary while she put together her business. Both were taking from her energy but she failed to acknowledge what they were giving her as well.
Gratitude is an essential step in the principles of manifestation and in my client’s case, she was vibrating from a place of lack instead of from a place of abundance.
The goal is to attracting more of the good and more of what you want is to start appreciating what you have now AND loving your life as it is right now. Find the good, feel the good, and appreciate what you have NOW.
Loving Your Life Now through Gratitude
Did you know that one simple habit can help you improve your health, be happy, strengthen your bond with those around you, and reduce your stress? Yes, it is true and the practice is to be grateful about all that you have. How many times have you compared yourself to others? Probably with a colleague who got a promotion or a friend who recently returned from a long holiday while you were working hard at the office. It is natural to feel jealous or inferior, but what is important is to rise above those feelings. The first step towards it is to be grateful about what you have.
There will always be people better than you, enjoying life more than you do. However, that does not imply that you have absolutely nothing to rejoice about. Here is a simple practice you can try to increase your gratitude count, and color your life with happiness as well as satisfaction. Think of all the important people in your life, those who have been doing wonderful things for you and those whom you never wish to lose. Just a minute each day, preferably first thing in the morning, make it a habit to thank these precious people. You do not have to call them and explain what they mean to you; just be grateful about having them in your life and you will instantly feel a positive energy rising within you. What better can you possibly do in less than a minute to keep yourself feeling positive the whole day?
Backed by research
Research by two psychologists from Texas has proved that those who embrace gratitude and take notice of the little joys of life experience less stress and depression. They are also quick in sprinting towards checking off goals from their to-do lists, than pessimists and those who cry over spilled milk.
Learn from small things
You may tend to take certain things in your life for granted – say you are not appreciative of the house you stay in or the place you work at; imagine those who do not have a home or those who are unemployed. So instead of cursing your job or living standards, shouldn’t you be thankful for whatever little you have, because some people do not have even that. Wouldn’t you be devastated if you lost the house you complain about, and had no where to go?
Sometimes it’s the smaller joys that take you step by step to the bigger ones. So if you complain about not getting a raise or a promotion, figure out what your are doing wrong or where you need to improve, rather than whining about the situation. Even if you are in an unpleasant situation, you can always take back something from it. So next time you find yourself complaining, quickly question yourself – what can be learned from the situation? Or how can it be made beneficial?
Maintaining a gratitude journal is an excellent step toward making the shift to gratefulness.
Try to figure out the ways you are most comfortable with in showing gratitude to people. Even something as simple as leaving behind a thank you note or a text conveying the same is a powerful way of showing gratitude.
In love and light,