SH*T HAPPENS! Is it good luck? Is it bad luck? Is there a premise?
You win $100 on a lottery ticket. Good luck?
Your car stalls while in traffic and you can’t get it started. Bad luck?
You take the car in for repair to find out there is a problem and it will cost you $3000 to get it fixed because it’s “complicated”. Bad luck?
Then you find out later than this specific problem is covered by the car dealer’s service department and you don’t have to pay a dime because its an issue with that model. Good luck?
Many of these situations may be interpreted as good luck or bad luck. Or they may be interpreted as a result of your energy. But, really who knows?
What is this all about?
When I started teaching psychology to first year college students back in 2007, I was shocked and excited at what we were teaching. It was a pleasant astonishment as I was thrilled that perspective taking, visualization , goal setting, and principles for life success. It was amazing and inspiration.
Within the text book there was one story which stood out to me. I still use it with clients and students who get stuck on thinking negatively or who worry excessively. Also, I use it to help people shift their perspective around what they think might be persistent bad-luck syndrome. Let me share this with you.
This is the story or parable of the Chinese farmer. You can listen to the story here:
So in order to think of a situation differently, you would need to change the way you look at the situation. To use a quote from Dr. Wayne W. Dyer,
“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” In other words, to change your thinking, you made need to reframe your thinking and shift your perspective of your experiences including the outcomes.
So when approaching situations or problems that you might encounter ask yourself if there is another perspective, if you can open the door to seeing the situation differently. Also, by looking at a situation differently there is the ability respond rather than react.
Reactions are made quickly and typically through our defense mechanisms. Responses are generally mindful and are processed with awareness.
Therefore, reactions are quick, hard and fast. Responses are calm, attentive and with less emotional intensity.
So when encountering different situations in your life whether they are perceived as good or bad, how might you shift your perspective to see the greater picture, the greater meaning behind the issue or situation so that you can maintain a balanced perspective of all that is endured?
Some people are very optimistic and may “look at things through rose colored glasses” or as the “glass half-full”, and pessimistic people look at things with the “glass half empty”. Which mindset to you prefer to live your life? There are lessons to be learned in all situations regardless of the perception attached to them. The bigger question is whether you are looking at things from the perspective of “good” or “bad” or able to see the teacher in each situation so that you can gain from it and move on.
Here are some questions and thoughts to get you started on thinking differently about situations in your life and gaining a shift in perspective and lessons learned from your experiences.
In difficult situations, seek another perspective and look for the positive. What good can come from this? What is this situation teaching me?
In all situations take them at face value without labeling them as “good” or “bad”, but as a lesson learned.
Ask yourself what you can learn from this situation and move on from there.
Put yourself in someone else’s shoes or establish another vantage point at which you may gain greater understanding.
In love and light,