I am sure that everyone can name at least ONE person in their lives who is negative. Negative people are toxic. They are either constantly putting themselves down, putting others down, or finding some way to breed negativity.
They typically don’t live from a place of authenticity and mirror themselves after others. Negative people have a point of reference outside themselves.Meaning, they either really don’t know who they are, or they dislike themselves so much that they have gotten caught up in pulling everyone else down with them.
Time to Cut Your Losses
I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase “Misery loves company.” – Yes, this is that person!
So why do you continue to hang out with them? Are you doing them a favor or hurting yourself? You’ll know when it is time to let go of negative friends when you are becoming MORE like them instead of them becoming more like YOU.
If you want to be a success and shift your mindset for the positive, you will need to let this person (or people) go. Also, you will want to build your new social circle of individuals that are either on the same path as you or who support what your mission is in life.
What if it is my mom or dad? What if it is my sister, or my brother?
Yes, sadly I know this all to well. My father is the most negative person I have ever met, and he admits it. It’s almost as if he wears a “I am a negative person and I don’t care” merit badge. Clearly, you cannot change others, or completely purge those closest to you from your life. But you can limit the time you spend with them and do your best to influence them. However, you can end up exhausting yourself by trying to change a negative person, so unless they are surrounded by other positive people, it will not work.
My solution is to keep a respectful distance and show up when necessary. Love your negative loved ones but remove myself from their presence as soon as humanly possible. You can love someone and spend a minimal amount of time with them without soaking up their negativity. Also, guard yourself against the negativity by changing the subject, and recharging your energy field after a visit with them.
But how often do you plan to be with dear ole mom or dear ole dad?? Everyday? Just weekends? Once a month?
Being prepared helps you in advance and to prepare yourself mentally and emotionally so these people don’t drag you down.
However, in general it is better to surround yourself with supportive, positive people. This should be your main social circle.
Letting go of negative people or spending less time with negative people will help you to improve your life.
If you are surrounded by mostly negative people, it is probably time to change your social circle and meet more positive people who can help you to grow. Meet new people. Get a new tribe.
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” – Jim Rohn
What are you doing today to alter your social circle?
How are you surrounding yourself with positive supportive people?
What can you do to let go of negative people and negativity from your life?
and, what strategies have worked for you?
Share your experiences in the comments below. I’d love to hear from you.
In love and light,