Many women follow their heart, which is awesome, but some fail to realize the use of logic in dating and relationships. Do you remember the last time you followed your heart but forgot your brain? Heart-centered relationships are awesome, but logic and the use of your brain is necessary.
I’ve worked with women who have said to me, “We had a great date, but then he didn’t call. What happened? Did I do something? Is something wrong with me?” or “We’ve been dating a couple weeks, things were good, and then poof, he disappeared.”
This, is unfortunately common but it is important to note that when this happens, this is NOT the right guy for you. The RIGHT guy does NOT just disappear. Many men realize that disappearing makes it easier to avoid having “a talk” or a confrontation about the relationship or future dating. So they jet!
And.. this happens to MANY very intelligent women! This is not a dumb woman’s problem!! I’ve seen it happen to women who have successful careers, women with multiple degrees, and highly intelligent women. The thing is, women want to be loved. Women want to be appreciated, and being tender-hearted, many women give guys the benefit of the doubt despite unpredictable or inexcusable behaviors. Instead, because women want so desperately to be loved, they just let it slide.
But, ladies, I’m here to tell you from both personal and professional experience – do not make up excuses for anyone. This is not your key to love. Use your brain and take things as face value. Look at how you would react if this happened to your girlfriend. When you shift your perspective, it is easier to pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and keep moving forward. And, in most cases, you will thank yourself for it later. The guy that comes around when it is convenient, the guy that falls of the face of the earth when you need him most, or the guy that doesn’t call or doesn’t return your calls, IS NOT DESERVING OF YOU!
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So, when it comes to your heart, don’t forget your head! <3 In love and light, Kristin